For some of you, it's the time of year for hearts and flowers, chocolate boxes and romantic weekends away. For others, Valentines Day may be a reminder that you are yet to find your perfect partner.

Some questions that you may find yourself asking, if alone again this year could be,

• Is that perfect person really out there?
• Will I ever find my soul mate?
• What exactly can I do to meet the one for me?

Let me answer these questions for you and shed some light on how you can embark on your journey to finding the perfect relationship.

Yes, the perfect person is out there for you and yes you will find your soul mate. So now we have got that straight, let's get to work.

So what is the secret to attracting and keeping hold of the perfect partner? What is it that you need to do to attract your soul mate?

The answer to this life changing is within you.

When it comes to attracting others beauty is, as they say, only skin deep. If you want to attract a partner that will last beyond the instant physical attraction, you will have to put in the leg work. The secret to attracting others and building perfect relationships is to have a strong sense of self and a healthy relationship with the one and only you. We will call this relationship with yourself, your personal foundation.

Only after you have built this strong personal foundation or sense of self are you really ready to build healthy and lasting relationships with others. Any relationship you build on a weak personal foundation could be doomed to fail from the offset. Before long the earth could be moving for all the wrong reasons.

So what is the secret to building a strong personal foundation? Working with an experienced life coach can be extremely valuable when building a strong sense of self and developing strategies for perfecting the art of attraction. In the meantime and to get you started, here are some effective techniques to enhance your ability to attract others.


Get clear of the past

Nobody wants to start a relationship by carrying somebody else's excess baggage. People are even more attractive when they have put old demons to rest and have buried the skeletons in their closet. Here are some tips for getting clear of the past:

1.  Find a way to forgive others who have caused you pain or distress. Let go of any negative emotions that you may be harbouring from previous break ups or fall outs. This gives you the space needed to invest positive energy and enthusiasm into any new relationships.

2.  Put things right. If you have, by your own standards done something that would have caused pain or upset to someone else put it right. Apologise with compassion and genuine regret. Face to face or in writing. Either way releasing the pressure of guilt from your life will leave you feeling a sense of freedom that is more attractive than the heavy burden of guilt.


Love yourself

It's true what they say you cannot be loved by anyone until you can love yourself. Take the time to write down at least five things that you find truly wonderful about you. Do it now! Think about what makes you special and unique.

To strengthen your personal foundation, at the end of every day, write down in a diary or journal what was special about you today. What made you perfect at being you?

Writing these positive personal attributes down every day, helps you to really connect with your positive qualities. This in turn will build self confidence, one of the most attractive qualities of all.


Know what is important to you

Take the time to understand what's really important to you, what do you value most? Work on understanding and defining your true values. When you have clarity around what you value most in life you can ensure that everything you do, including attracting a new partner supports, rather than conflicts with your most important values. Knowing this at the start of a relationship will help you to separate the time wasters from the ones that could be for keeps.


To strengthen your personal foundation and increase your powers of attraction, call Zoe now on 01202 252287 0r 07793 084628. You can also email Zoe to find out more about her coaching services on This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it